Episode 0017 Season 2-Brett Ullman on Parenting Navigating Everything

Welcome to episode 0017 of the FOUR12 Canada podcast.

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We are excited to have Brett Ullman with us, sharing about his book Parenting: Navigating everything. Brett has been married for 23 years, has two kids and was a teacher with the Toronto District School Board for 10 years before moving into speaking full-time back in 2005. He travels North America speaking to teens, young adults, leaders, and parents on topics including parenting, mental health, men, sexuality, pornography, dating, and media.  Make sure you take a look at the link below to his website to see all he has to offer.

Connect with Brett

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Links from the Podcast

Brett Ullman

Parenting: Navigating everything by Brett Ullman

Alyson Schafer

ChurchPulse Weekly podcast

How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims

Parenting Styles Video

 

PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS

Something Fun

• Photography
• Gardening

Parenting Navigating Everything Highlights 

• Heads up! It's not a normal book
• Came out of a speaking talk; took three years to develop
• Wanted to help parents create great and rich relationships with their kids
• One resource for parenting

 Up Next -- Men: Navigating Everything

• Working on a book for men
• Focusing on physical, spiritual and mental health
• How do we be good husbands?

Ways to Research

• Poll people online
• Read books that people suggest
• Check out blogs
• Provide good practical help for people to implement in homes and families

Practical Everyday Faith

• Faith should be in everything
• Your worldview shapes your values -- and your values affect your actions
• Connect parenting with practical takeaways

"Our faith sustains us in the journey"

Build an Authentic Relationship With Your Child

• Do our kids think we only love them when they follow our rules?
• Are there conditions on how we love them?
• Orange curriculum; relational influence
• Relationship is so important
• We gain authentic relationship when we show ongoing that we are for them, not against them
• Authentic relationship takes time and hard work
• Put down your mouse or phone and look your kids in the eyes when they ask you something

Overparenting

• We do too much for our kids
• When we over-function our kids under-function
• We need to prepare our kids
• Instead of just telling them what to do, teach them the "why" behind it
• Be practical (e.g., let them make their own lunch or order for themselves at a restaurant)
• They need to learn how to talk to adults

Prepare Your Kids

• How to deal with social media
• How to deal with pornography
• How to deal with interpersonal relationships
• Equip them for this crazy world

The Pressure to Conform

• Christians do life differently
• Kary Oberbrunner: You can conform to the world or you can be a transformist
• It's okay to say we do this differently in our family
• Do what's best for your kids
• Don't worry about conforming and looking at everyone else
• Conforming is usually status quo and that is usually mediocrity 

Slow Parenting

• Check out author Carl Honore
• Take time to sit and eat not rush through
• Take a slower pace so we don't miss the day-to-day things
• Find things to do together and enjoy them

Social Media

• Follow people you don't agree with to get a different perspective
• Use it to sharpen you and challenge your viewpoint

Refresh and Renew

• Pivoting as we all try to figure this out
• What will the next few years look like?
• Online courses with all his talks and resources
• Let's do something every day in this season for the mind, body and soul
• Acknowledge everything good that happens
• Don't miss the special moments
• Listen

 Think About This

• Be very open to doing things differently
• What we do has to be strategic
• We need to equip our kids and our parents

Reach Out to Our Community

• Try new ways to reach out and connect as parents and leaders
• Ask YouTubers to edit videos
• Backpacks for schools
• Food banks
• Provide a place to be seen and listened to
• People desperately need help with mental health and ways to connect right now

2 Corinthians 4:16 "Therefore we don't lose heart..."

Thanks for listening!  We hope this episode has equipped you for greater influence through serving and we don’t want you to miss a single episode so if you haven’t done so already, subscribe to the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. And you can help us reach more people by writing a review for the podcast on the Apple podcast app and other podcast apps that you use. The FOUR12 Canada podcast is a ministry of Faith Baptist Church in Huntsville Ontario. Explore everything FOUR12 Canada at four12.ca. Thanks for spending some time with us. See you next time!

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Up Next Season 2 Episode 0018 : Steve Lensink on Practically Preparing,

Leading Creatives and

Making Donuts